Do I say:
Yes, I have been pregnant four times, but the baby stopped growing shortly after conception (no, too much information).
It's none of your business (but I don't want to come off rude at my new job).
So usually I go with, no, it's just me and my husband and when the question is about if we are going to have children, I answer, "no, too busy with work". Which was a complete lie. It all feels like lies.
What is the truth? And how much of the truth do I want to share?
The truth is, I have loved a Mother's love.
The truth is, I don't know when/or if we are going to have children, not because that's not what I want, but because it's not in my control.
I think when I am asked "do you have any children"? Instead of giving my bland, self-defeated "No". I would like to say "not right now. Right now my life is full of traveling and working and time with my husband and camping and art work". I like the words "not right now". Because its true. Right now, I don't have any children here with me and it leaves the window open for the future. And I like adding in all the other wonderful things I have in my life. Because my life is full of wonderful things right now.
In response to "are you going to have kids"? I need to remind myself that its okay to say "that's a rather personal question" and leave it at that. It really isn't anyones business and I don't "owe" them an answer.
I think I am going to try to use both these answers in the future.